- Gently place your tongue on the roof of your mouth. This helps circulate energy throughout the body.
- Inhale through your nose for six counts.
- Hold your breath for three counts.
- Exhale through your nose for six counts.
- Hold your breath for three counts.
- This 6-3-6-3 breathing completes one cycle
- At one time 7 cycles are to be done
- Please note the counts should match your heart beat e.g Rublub Dublub (Rhythm of heart)
Gay-affirmative therapy is supposed to be the “cure” for unwanted homosexual desires, according to gay activists and the major therapeutic associations (whose professional motto seems to be, “If we can’t figure out how to fix it, it must not be broken”). The problem, they say, is not with the desires, but with the fact that they are unwanted.
But we didn’t want to be affirmed as gay. We wanted to be affirmed as MEN. We needed to heal lifelong feelings of being different from other guys.
We needed to heal our “father wounds” and “father hunger.” We needed to heal our sense of estrangement from men and our own masculinity. Affirming our “gayness” could never accomplish that. Only affirming our manhood – affirming our place in the world of men — could bring us the healing we needed.
After all, our wounds, at their root, were not about sex. They were about a little boy’s deepest needs to feel loved and wanted and to feel okay as a male. Sex could never heal them. Only brotherly love could heal them: the love of God, the love of other men, of mentors, of fathers and father figures, and especially love of ourselves, as men.
Call it “gender-affirmative” therapy: learning to experience at last, in non-sexual ways, the masculine love and affirmation we had secretly longed for all our lives. In many ways, that is what those of us who sought out reparative therapy or inner-child therapy experienced.
As David writes:
“My therapeutic work wasn’t about switching the gender of my sexual preference. It was about escaping the problems underlying them – anxiety, shame and fear… I worked with (my therapist) for two years, focusing on building relationships with other men, getting past my incapacitating shame, and developing a strong masculine identity. The ‘great divide’ in my life between me and other men began to close… And yes, my sexual orientation changed too.”
Gay activists have lambasted and politicized reparative or sexual re-orientation therapy and persuaded the major therapeutic professional associations, out of political correctness, to vilify and condemn it. Deliberate mis-characterizations of reparative therapy abound.
But those of us who went through reparative therapy found it to be a deeply healing experience. It helped bring us out of shame. It helped us release anger. It helped us heal lifelong hurts and emotional wounds. It taught us how to “repair” childhood yearnings for male affirmation and acceptance by fulfilling them, often with new heterosexual male friends and mentor-father figures, instead of repressing them. Instead of focusing on our sexual orientation, reparative therapy focused on healing with other men (especially our fathers and peers) and with ourselves as men.
As the client, we directed the therapy. We were never coerced. We were never shamed. (And we certainly never received electric shocks, as some claim!) And because good reparative therapists act more as a compassionate mentor than an aloof, disinterested professional, we began to learn to trust men and overcome our defensive detachment from them, sometimes for the first time in our lives.
Almost as a byproduct of our inner work and our relationship work with men, our sexual desire for men began to subside. The stronger we felt in our own masculine, the less desire for men and the more interest in women we began to feel.
One successful client writes of his experience:
“With my eyes closed and the music playing softly, I heard the strong, deep voice of my trusted therapist affirming, ‘You are a man. You are strong. You have broken the power that once tied you to your mother’s identity. You have proven yourself as a man among men. You are whole. Not perfect, but you’re okay not being perfect. You are whole.’ ” Tears rolled down my face. I believed him! It was true, and I finally knew it. I was whole! I no longer desired men sexually. I was one of them, not their opposite. I didn’t need a man to complete me. Yet the irony is, I felt more bonded and connected to men and manhood than I had all of my life. THIS is what I had been seeking all those years from all those men. THIS is what I had really wanted all along — this REAL connection, not the fantasy one. Connection to men. Connection to my own manhood. A real connection to God. Wholeness within myself. I felt my heart almost burst out of my chest with joy.”
So what could be so wrong with such healing reparative therapy? Only that it is political incorrect in today’s society for someone who experiences homosexual urges to not want to be gay.
But we are not talking about politics. We are talking about our very lives, and our freedom to heal. “Going straight” is not a hate crime. For us, it is an affirmation of our true identity as men.
by Jo Beth Young
The Angels are always adamant that we have a beautiful karmic bond with the Children we choose and that choose us, whether they be by birth, adoption or fostering.
Those of us familiar with Soul Contracts won’t find this too hard to understand when we realize that all of our relationships, but particularly those of intimacy and depth, are all pre destined and chosen mainly in the spirit state before birth.
In the last year I’ve started to ‘see’ these bonds of contracts and soul seed paths behind people when they come for readings. They look remarkable; a cross between a star map and a string of pearls. Each strand showing us the agreements and ‘destiny’ points on our journey, with as much time and leeway as our free will wishes to join up dot to dot!
When we adopt or foster a child it is most likely a ‘soul contract’ has been agreed before birth between you both as well as your partner. You may have been chosen by the child’s soul as the perfect teacher, nurturer or having the perfect gifts and ancestry for their particular life purpose. You may have also requested the bond during this life to help you on your journey also to learn lessons, gain skills and also to experience another dynamic with a member of your ‘soul group’ on this side.
The Angels take our soul contracts very seriously and help to oversee the synchronicities of this meeting and bonding, just as they would with a ‘natural’ birth. Therefore your guardian angels and that of your adopted or fostered child communicate readily about what is ‘actually’ taking place between souls outside the “day to day”.
Another most wonderful thing starts to happen when we adopt a child, which when I first saw it really surprised and touched me deeply. As adoption is a ‘contract’ we make of guardianship, once we take another being into our care and custodianship, the ancestral lines connect! So even though your adopted child may not be of your bloodline physically, the energetic DNA is directed to your child. This means they become of your bloodline energetically and they have all the boons and challenges of you and your partner’s ancestral line. This really seals the bond spiritually and it is this line that the child wants and agrees to connect to before birth.
Doesn’t the child have a soul contract with their natural birth parents also? Yes of course they do, and part of that contract may actually BE to be separated, orphaned and adopted. There’s a real gift in all of life’s challenges that we may actually want to experience. Many people find this soul contract knowledge very comforting and empowering when dealing with difficulties, tragedy and injustices that they cannot understand.
No one ‘deserves’ anything in life and soul contracts certainly don’t negate having healthy boundaries or making decisions that lead us to happier and healthier results! However, it does help us by assuring us that we do choose to have varied experiences so we can learn how to react and grow through them differently. We get a new choice every time we experience yet another setback, heartache or loss as well as successes, victories and gains.
Can we break soul contracts? Of course! Ultimately, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. I believe our challenge here on Earth is not becoming spiritual as we already are! It’s being human that’s the hard part! The Angels constantly remind us that we have free will, or else they would be able to intervene without us having to ask. We are here to take the credit for our own tapestry of existence. Children and parents can break their contract and move on at any time if they feel it truly isn’t working out, just like any other relationship.
In the case of fostering, it may also be that your ‘contract’ is to walk a short part of the path with this particular soul to mentor, influence and protect them as they venture toward the next stage of life. My own mother was fostered as a child and though it was for a couple of years, they were extremely informative of her behaviour and ‘shape’ later on. The breaking of the contract in adoption situation is, in my experience very rare. However, whether you have fostered or adopted, there is something very unique and profoundly special about choosing consciously your child/parent relationship during your Earth years together rather than before.
As a parent in this beautiful & unique relationship, you are cherished by the Angels as a true Earth Angel. Giving your unconditional love, guidance, support, parenting and nurturing to another from conscious choice is really the highest life purpose you can have! You are amazingJ Your Angels cherish and protect your child/parent bond and can be called upon to help you strengthen and flourish as a family. Next time, we’ll look into that more and how to bring more angelic love, fun and joy into you your child’s life together!